It took me over six months. I thought I was getting engaged, and had no clue the guy was about to say goddbye and good luck. Except he didn’t have the decency to do even that. One day I thought we were getting engaged and the next day I never heard from him again. we knew each other for about a year when this happened. Even HIS friends couldn’t believe what he did. They also thought he was about to propose to me. And no, it really was NOTHING that I did. He had met a rich girl, and dumped me without bothering to let me know.
Many of our mutual chevra, stopped talking to him after that. No one would ever have guessed from their association with him,that he could possibly possess such a lack of middos. My family and I were completely fooled. I had just turned 21. It really was a very painful experience, but thank G-d, I met my husband instead, and that was a bracha of indescribable proportions.