Jbaldy22,
Nice to see you(r SN).
I think people are forgetting that the minhag clearly has been to take ad d’lo yada pretty literally. Some very big gedolim were noheg this way (others weren’t, but the ones who were had bigger yeshivos).
As the generations have deteriorated, the question has become whether those who can drink responsibly should stop doing so in order not to set a bad example for those who aren’t responsible, and whether it would help. I don’t know the answer to this question; there seem to be supporters for both positions.