News flash: Being Jewish does not depend on some external mitzvas like tefilin and tzitzit. Being jewish is based on having a jewish neshama by being born to a jewish mother or converting. When the yidden stood at Har Sinai and accepted the Torah, they became Jews, men and women alike. All their descendants are jewish provided they hadn’t married a non jewish woman.
In any case, this topic, like so many others in the coffee room is just looking for another way to demean women, as them being “less than”. That’s the real obsession here.