As Reb Moshe used to say: Among the people that were moser nefesh to keep shabbos in America, some of the families children remained frum and some didn’t. The ones that used to say “It’s so hard to keep shabbos. We have to give up our jobs for it.”, had their kids go off. The ones that said “Shabbos is so special, we even give up our jobs for it”, had their kids remain frum. I’m seeing both sentiments in this thread regarding kollel.
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