I’m not disagreeing about the possibility, DY. I was annoyed that someone just can’t read.
Lior: The question was why girls don’t give the “yes” first. My response was that more girls get rejected than boys and preserving their dignity is important.
The reason you claim not to have understood what I was saying is because I didn’t directly link dignity to rejection, you assumed I meant that a girl’s dignity is more important.
I have no idea how you jumped to that conclusion. I’ll accept that reason “3” came into play. I just think that “1” and/or “2” were far more relevant.
Now allow me to explain my point a little more. When a person is rejected before they look into someone else, the rejection is often without their knowledge of, investment in, or acquiescence to, the shidduch. A rejection is in essence saying “I don’t want you.” When someone has to hear that from someone else, it is an affront to their dignity. When it occurs after the person has said “I do want you” to the other party, the affront to their dignity is compounded. The word dignity as I’m using it refers to worthiness.
In sum, more girls=more guy rejections and the party with propensity to rejection should go first, as a rejection which occurs before the other party says yes, is less of an affront do dignity.