You know, Joseph, it aint the topic that is the problem, it’s the attitude. Coming on here and saying a BT is likely to go off as if it’s expected is disgusting. If you want to discuss it respectfully as a concept, then ask how we can be sure someone is secure in their frumkeit if they are new and being considered for marriage.
Sam is right. If we cannot speak in a way that is encouraging and supportive, we are in danger of turning them away. And honestly, some of the attitudes turn me away and I’ve been frum all my life.
Of course being respectful seems, from what I read on another thread, to be the reason the CR isn’t exciting anymore but I’m willing to risk it.