In reality, most people come to shul in order to daven. Once they get there and see other people, their social goals emerge, and they take precedence. The talking in shul problem can be addressed in various ways. The “Stop Talking in Shul” project, which has major support from the media is one way. While I support it, I also recognize its limitations.
There is another direction, and I would hope it can be successfully implemented and successful. The concept, not exactly new, is to learn to appreciate tefilo. B”H there is a wealth of resources to assist in this. There are siddurim with translations in Yiddish, English, and many other languages. There are hundreds of meforshim, and there are also many seforim that engage in the subject of tefilo in ways that are not just academically exciting, but speak to one’s emotion. If we appreciated the gift of tefilo, we would more likely pass up the social benefits of the shul to prioritize davening.
For too many, tefilo is a perfunctory exercise that one needs to fulfill (i.e., get it out of the way) in order to move onto the next activity of the day. Such an attitude gives tefilo little meaning, and pushes it way down the list of priorities. It also removes the significance it should have for us all – a golden opportunity to speak to HKB”H.
People ask, don’t goyim have the ability to daven. I saw a sefer that addresses that. A Yid can daven anywhere. Goyim need to bring a korbon to the Bais Hamikdosh (ki baisi bais tefilo yiokorei lechol ho’amim). Thus, the shul is a special gift, that highlights the unique relationship HKB”H has with Klal Yisroel. There is much to appreciate.