Reply To: Should the wishes of racist parents that I not date their child be respected?

Many people put parameters in with the shadchan. For example: they wont date heavy girls/boys, they wont date someone from overseas, they will only date someone who will support for 5 years, etc…

Honestly, if any of my children would be dating someone of another race and they were both happy, I can say, it would probably be a big pill to swallow, mainly because I’d have to build myself against the gossip and naysayers.

I would never, ever stop a shidduch that was in the process. My parents told me when i was dating, “whoever you marry, we will love”. I felt so good about that, knowing that my parents would support my decision! I daven that I should have the siyata dishmaya to have the same outlook!

I still have a long way to go until my children are in shidduchim, buy I’d like to think of myself as open minded and accepting of all types.

Here’s wishing you much mazel in this scary and confusing world of shidduchim!