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Joseph
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DY and all:

If you were redt a shidduch for your daughter of a guy similarly cultured as your daughter, born in the same country, born Jewish, FFB (parents or grandparents were converts), fully frum and is either seriously koveia itim or is seriously learning full time (depending whichever your daughter is looking for) and is a black man with an Afro hair (by nature not design) and you’re doing all your shidduch research on him and just as your about to finish your research (everything looks good) your redt another shidduch (by a different shadchan) of another guy [ready to go out] with all the same attributes as above except it’s a white yeshiva guy from a Lithuanian or Hungarian family background instead of the Nigerian background of Bochor One. In a nutshell, other than the ethnicity both are equal and Bochor Two has no other advantages. Do you send your daughter on a date with Bochor One or do you wait to see if Bochor Two is shayach?