Chassidic? I said they’re dating not beshowing. Among Yeshivish girls many, and likely most, don’t compare prospective guys and choose whose more attractive to her before their first date, as you suggested. You’re simply making up new parameters because you’re afraid to address the question as is. So you skirt. But that’s fine, as I said.
Does simply answering this make you uneasy?: If someone redt an ethnic Nigerian guy with an Afro hair to date your daughter and at a later time someone else redt an ethnic European to date your daughter, all other things being equal, would you be more reluctant or slower to pass on the first shidduch proposals than the second?