Reply To: Chareidi Engagement?

I know on his end there was NO parental input. Everyone in our family was surprised. We knew he was dating in general, but didn’t know he’s reached the 4th date with anyone. More importantly, his parents didn’t know. She could just be shy and have a beautiful neshama inside. Like I said, it could work. But he confessed to us that he doesn’t know the girl at all, and he’s worried. But… he was told this is normal.

Our input… In the past he came to me for life advice. But that was years ago. My father-in-law is his Sandak, so they’re very close. But he wasn’t in on this engagement.

I don’t plan on insinuating my opinion unless I’m directly asked. He invited me to the vort next Motzei Shabbos and I’m happy to go and b’simcha the chassan.

Is this structure of this process sound?