Help!! We’re Ashkenazim. Our daughter is marrying a Bucharian. His parents want a traditional Bucharian wedding. Neither side is wealthy, but since his side’s guests will be helping them to pay for the wedding, they can afford it. We can’t ask our guests to chip in, so we can only afford a more modest wedding. We want to compromise, but everybody tells us it’s not possible — if it’s not extravagant, it’s not Bucharian so it’s unacceptable to their side. The couple just wants to get married — they don’t want to hear about this problem.
Surely others have encountered this kind of situation. How have they handled it?