If i see you holding an iphone, i can assure you 100% that i will judge you favorably, if at all (which I would probably not). But to come out and say that some people have good and productive reasons for using something that the rabbaim have straight up said not to own is not the way our religion works. Sorry if you take insult. It seems to have somehow become almost acceptable in my town to get memberships to the new mixed gym. am i obligated to pretend that that is okay as well because i have to assume that they are using it productively and i need to be dan l’kaf z’chus? On an individual basis – absolutely! But to not speak against it when people nonchalantly open threads as if it is a rule we have all chosen to forgo? that live and let live policy has been very destructive for our religion. Sure, i can go open a new thread about it but people who are doing things that aren’t advised are usually not the ones who read those threads. and people who have made excuses for themselves will actually feel free to come out and defend themselves even against the advice of those greater than them, instead of thinking it thru. Oh well.
Have a safe trip.