@mazal77: After reading your post I got so worked up that you could post something like that after reading the other posts before yours. Then I thought about it and realized that painting the world of diabetes as simple and great is misleading. And I’m sorry you’re going through what you are going through.
However, you could have toned it down a bit. You could have mentioned the TYPE of diabetes and how long it took until it was actually diagnosed.
I have relatives with TYPE 1 diabetes and they live completely normal lives. They are all married, have children, and are functioning like everyone else does. Yes, they have to monitor what they eat and how much they eat. But don’t we all to some extent? Yes, they have to be extra careful during pregnancies, more so than the average woman.
Your post is understandable but comes on a bit strong. Although you are going through a hard time, please try to tone it down a bit so that you don’t scare others who are open to accept diabetics in their lives.
@binahyeseira: I hear what you are saying about not setting someone up with a diabetic just because they are accepting of diabetics.
However, I do disagree with you a bit in that if someone is open and accepting to a specific thing, yes, shidduchim should be suggested from that “pool”. If someone said (s)he was open to marrying a person of color, why wouldn’t you suggest someone of color? There are so many prejudice people out there who are ignorant/afraid of the possibility of dating someone who is not “perfect” (well who is perfect?!) and there are so few accepting, warm, and loving people out there who are willing to consider them. Why take away those few options from this wonderful group of people with diabetes or people of color?!
@Tralala: You’re right to a certain extent. However, I’m surprised that this would come from someone with diabetes. If you are living a “normal” life (who’s really to say what’s normal? But lets use this term for now) with diabetes. Why would you discourage others from giving someone else in your shoes a chance?! In fact, someone who knows how to control their diabetes all their life, may be in a better position to deal with the ups and downs of their diabetes than other women who develop issues during pregnancies and have to learn on the spot how to deal with it. And someone with diabetes who is having a hard time dealing with so many children, should speak to a rav. Just as any other woman without diabetes would!
@rebbitzen: It’s nice to see someone advocate for those being pushed down.
@newbee: love that you bumped this thread! I didn’t even realize how old this thread was until i read your post!