The Chofetz Chaim.
He gives a parable of two brothers sitting at a table with their father. Suddenly one brother reaches over and takes the other’s plate. Rather than add wood to the fire, the brother goes to the father at the head of the table.
Father, you saw what my brother did to me. I’m it would upset you to see us dispute which is why I am asking you to quietly reimburse me.
The father was so happy, he said not only would he give a new plate of food, he would give an even better one.