Yekke, if, chas v’sholem , it was your child, would you be able to be so rational?
Boruch Hashem, I have never been in the terrible situation, and I hope not to ever have to be able to face the answer to that question. Unfortunately, being rational is difficult when you are associated in the story, and the best way to deal with any situation is to imagine you were not in any way involved… or if that proves too difficult, get advice from somebody who actually isn’t involved. Involvement blinds all semblance of rationality (like the story of the Shach [which either did or didn’t happen]).
But my point was – rationality is the way forward, not unbalanced emotion. I don’t blame anybody for not being rational, but that doesn’t change the truth of the correct response.