syag
sorry if my post sounded insensitive, as a psychologist it is a top rule to be sensitive, BUT when it comes to assisting a patient everything needs to be %100 HONEST or else all my help to my patient is worthless if I don’t get the full true story/situation from him/her.
every doctor/rebbe can only help his patient/talmid If he listens %100 to his advice & takes the medicine prescribed for him in his situation etc… to help him the patient needs to tell his doctor what really hurts him…. so he can prescribe the right medicine/solution
Hatzlacha
on this topic the top solution is to sit down today/immediately with your spouse & make a budget