What craziness. Speaking as a 50+ with married kids, let me give you (my) perspective.
Any of the circumstances described above (poverty, overweight etc.) can be changed. And the reverse is true to (Rich, thin, etc). We all have the ability to change and Hashem can change things in a flash.
From my experience, what is truly deep down (hashkafa, midos, etc.) are more likely to stay and be refined with a good partner.All this outside stuff is noise meant to distract us from what is important.