When we forgive ourselves, we don’t have a problem forgiving others. When we feel guilty, we’re not able to forgive, neither ourselves nor others.
Forgiving doesn’t mean condoning bad behaviour. We condemn bad behaviour, but we don’t hold onto guilt, anger and resentment. We can’t grow when we’re stuck in guilt. We need to learn from our mistakes and move forward.
When we forgive ourselves for our mistakes, we can forgive others for their mistakes.
I recommend the book “FORGIVENESS” by Rabbi Abraham Twerski