Rabbi Miller zatzal says if one does regular mundane things like cooking and cleaning, feeding and taking care of children, all without any thought, than he’s going through the actions just like any other baal chai. One is supposed to think and have kavana that he /she is doing it because ?? ??? ???? ????? etc., that elevates the act into a a mitzva, something sublime, something elevated, it elevates and make the person who did it into more of a Shalaim. A lot of his shiurim talk about this and the concept of doing it privately – ???? ??? ?? ?????.
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