And many shidduchim have been turned down by boys wanting things that really don’t make a difference to a marriage.
No one is infalliable, as I already said here
but having parents in charge makes the insane demands come from someone other than the one whose opinion actually counts. I didn’t mention it earlier, but parents being in charge also has a major drawback from parents’ laziness and/or insistence on federal investigations on each potential shidduch.
it’s based on someone whose opinion I highly value who dealt with too many bad marriages caused by the boy’s immaturity, and (unrelated) to the point at which one’s learning style is established enough to get married.
I’m really curious if this respected person happens to know whether or not Israeli couples have more shalom bayyis issues than American families. (This whole thing is really irrelevant to this thread, but I am curious.) And I don’t know what you mean with that use of parenthesis; please remember that learning wasn’t mentioned in this thread thus far.
And similar to the litvish older girls, older boys especially if their ruchnios is low are considered “damaged goods”. And not being married for a not so solid boy definitely hinders his ruchnios, so it’s a vicious cycle.
so there we have it. Although they start shiduchim at the same age, there is still one gender who is more affected by age than the other gender.