Joseph, even if your assumptions were correct, it doesn’t change how the shiduch crisis was caused. At the most, it means that there’s no feasible solution to the shiduch crisis. But, as it happens, every single thing you said was either wrong or entirely irrelevant.
1. Parents opinion counts.
FALSE!!! The child is getting married, not the parent; hence it’s their opinion that count. And it’s exactly your arrogant attitude (assuming you’re a parent–otherwise it’s your submissive attitude) which contributes to the crisis.
3. Parents are wiser.
Some parents are wiser. Some aren’t.
4. Parents are less likely to fall for infatuation of nonimportant attributes versus more important attributes.
False.
5. Investigations are critically important in shidduchim.
Undoubtedly, but there’s a limit to everything, and when it comes to a suggestion sitting on the shelf while the parents investigate, and in the meantime the other side moves on, the line was very much crossed.
Both older girls and older boys lose their “market value” with age, however there are probably more boys than girls that reach that stage.
So there you have it.