Joseph: DY’s quote was a different context.
Correct.
DY–do you think that difference would lead to beshows vs dating?
Yes, not just the beshows themselves, but the whole process, in which most of the decision is made by the parents, with the chosson/kallah basically just having veto power. It would be a disaster in the Litvish community, but works (on the whole) for the chassidish communities.