Joseph: I think this thread went off topic with this post:
“51. Some abuse victims are also content to stay where they are.
mdd, doesn’t the Gemora say that a woman would rather be married to a bad husband than to not be married? “
To summarize where we were before we went off track:
1) Mammelle said,
” I think a major difference is that for the most part Litvish women are expected to have a career long term while for the most part Chasidish women are not expected to and most of her focus is on raising a family and homemaking — beyond the first few years while her husband learns and she must work.”
2) Daas Yochid said,
“There is more parental support (I don’t just mean financial) in the first couple of years.” This was backed up by Moshiach Agent.
3) But I think we can pretty much forget about the idea due to the comment,
“I think it would be a disaster for the Litvish community.” which was backed up by Popa
I do have a suggestion that is based on this idea. There are probably a small number of Litvish girls who could enter the world of the beshow if they were prepared properly. Perhaps this would require that they and their parents decide to send them to a Chassidische high school at age 14? It would be apparent very quickly whether the other girls accepted them or not. If not, they would leave and go to a Litvish high school. If the other girls accepted her, she could try the beshow system at 18-19. If that didn’t work, she could simply go back to the Litvish shadchanim at age 20. That small number of Litvish girls might be enough to solve the shidduch crisis based on the assumption that the Chassidische velt has a reverse shidduch crisis (too many boys).