Oomis: I did not know that, and I think it is a chillul Hashem, but I’m pretty sure we’ve done that conversation before. I still think what we did is ok, because it was just our family having fun and we didn’t invite the community.
I don’t have any problem with wanting to make any sort of party for the birth of a girl. But I do have a problem with davka doing the type of party which is made for a boy. Meaning, if you are happy and want a party–make a party. But if you are doing it to make social statements–that I am not in favor of.