I said its hard to defend, but its a reality.
Ive actually heard more about that you think, its more common.
I think most people are struggling, the frum lifestyle is expensive and people do have trouble making choices paying yeshiva tutions and other expenses that we can debate if they are nessasry.
I dont know if most outsiders can really surmise if the reason someone cant pay a yeshiva tutions is because they dont want to , or cant properly budget it