Um, Joe, that doesn’t make any sense. I will choose who I marry for a variety of reasons. (One may be desperation, who knows, don’t count chickens… 🙂 ) But it will all be part of a bigger picture, so your question doesn’t really follow. That picture includes me as someone who values Torah and hopes to marry someone who does as well.
DY, I just don’t see why it’s necessary to make a “better” Torah home. And on this we fundamentally disagree. I think that the only framework in which it’s bad for a man to not want to learn full-time is in a system where everyone else is, and as we’ve established, the side effects of that system are pernicious.