As a mother who was in a “name the baby situation” and a grandmother who was in “you should have” named the baby situation, I have to reiterate that it is not so simple. For all we do and give to our children generously and for all our children expect of us all we ask is that you honor our parents by giving a name for them so they will be remembered. We will not love the baby any less, but we might choose to compensate the parents less for being less than generous in return.
In addition, those grandchildren who are named for their great-grandparents will inevitably wind up with heirlooms and other chashuv items that were once owned by those family members, it is just what will naturally happen. By choosing that the name is “weird” and discounting the importance of that family member you are choosing to cut your child out from future inheritance that may cause them to feel jealous and have bad feelings down the road. It is just human nature. My grandchild who is named for my father will get my father’s things. My grandchild who is named for my father-in-law will get his things. My granddaughter who is named for my mother-in-law will inherit her things, and in the future, my first granddaughter who is named for my mother will get her ring. That’s just the way it is.