Bramo- those who do not believe in marrying a learning boy will view it as brainwash; those who do believe in marrying a learning boy will view it as being taught the right way. It all depends on your perspective.
Many, if not most girls my age did not grow up with this lifestyle. Even if our fathers started off learning, most likely they went out to work when we were very young or not born yet. However, just because a person did not grow up with something, does not mean they cannot choose it for themselves.