Just heard this one in a lecture by Rabbi Rietti, while discussing expectations in relationships.
“Asay licha Rav, kinei licha chaver, VeHevai dan es kol haadom lkaf zchos.”
Make yourself a teacher, buy yourself a friend and judge each person favorably.
What does the last piece of advice, judging favorably, have to do with the getting yourself a teacher and friend?
Because if we look for an absolutely perfect teacher, someone who will never be anything less than perfectly sensitive to me, and if we search for a friend who will never make a mistake in this friendship, then we will never find ourselves a teacher or friend. People are humans; we are inherently not perfect. Therefore, don’t expect perfection in any relationship. Rather, when he/she makes a mistake – judge them favorably, realize they are humans.