CTLawyer, Mazel tov! I get that you can afford the extravagance. I’m not sure if you live in a community where this is the norm and most people there can afford this. If thats the case then i guess kol hakovod.
The problem is when youre the rich guy around and your standards are not the same as everyone around you. Heres where it gets sticky. (Im sure you know what im about to say.) Although it makes sense that someone should go to a lavish wedding and say, “Oh, this is nice but lo and behold i just can’t afford doing the same-oh fooey” lots of people dont. Or feel they can’t.
I’m usually on board with what you say but im gonna disagree with you on this one