Technical21…….
No comment was made as to your parents and their opinion, just to you considering a statement offensive.
There is no condescension in my observations about how opinions change with maturation and aging and I gave an example of myself to show that.
You are young, enjoy your youth. I pray that you have a long, healthy and productive life. You will find that opinions, attitudes and tastes change over the course of a lifetime.
No one is advocating that you do anything that is not right for you or your parents.
I have advocated that each make decisions according to his/her own situation at the time. My parents were married in February 1944-in NYC in the middle of WWII. Wartime rationing was in place. Adults were allowed one new pair of shoes per year. Brides could not buy material for gowns, they were rented. Guests attending the affair had to give their ration points to the caterer in advance so the caterer could obtain sufficient food. It didn’t matter that my maternal grandfather was a wealthy doctor and my paternal grandfather was making his fortune by manufacturing army uniforms. A lavish chasunah with black market purchases (which were fully available) was not appropriate in that situation.
I hope that when your time comes you and your parents arrange a chasunah that conforms with your ideals/values.