newbee: I’d suppose you read and comprehen the English language. Much of our devoted staff (posters) have responded pretty well and prolifically. There is no ONE way, as HaShem is not mortal, physical, and no one really “bumps in to Him”. Read what they wrote, there is something to learn and glean from each one, each one delivered and expounded on a fine point.
And sorry to disappoint you, eating cholov akum, talking in shul is not a way to come close to HaShem. Neither is doing any of the aveiros He said a Jew mustn’t do, if you are a Jew. Yes, ever since Kabalas Hatorah a Jew comes closer to HaShem by doing those pithy, minor details and deeds known as Mitzvohs. That’s what Maamad Har Sinai was all about.