Shmoel- Tragically correct. The sooner the “oilam” is awakened from their slumber, the sooner the solutions will be able to be implemented.
Solutions, no matter how simple and how effective they might be, they can not be implemented against the will of the people. When the “oilam” asks for them to be imlemented, they will
but not a day before.
Part of the difficulty in bringing the :oilam” on board, is that they confuse the micro with the macro.
Everyone who knows a older single girls (or 30 of them) thinks they can point to each one and say. “This is why she is single or that is why she is single.”
“If she would have done or been more x y or z, then she would’ve been married”
and they have “proof” “look, she dated x amount of guys, so obviously she had her chances”
This perception is commonplace amongst parents, shadchanim, mentors etc. Their connection to the shidduch scene is on the individual level.
What they don’t grasp, is that even if everyone one of the older singles they know would have married the first guy they dated we would still have just as many older single young women, it would just be different ones who are single.
All the reasons in the world why a specific young woman is still single can perhaps (and usually not) explain why she is part of the unlucky 10%, but they do nothing to explain nor alleviate why we find ourselves with the tragic reality of around 10% remaining single.
As for people like Shalom, all i can say is the facts on the ground indicate otherwise. Most any normal frum 29 year old single guy has a opportunity to date 2 girls each night of the week. You write that you are 29 and having dated in 6 months. something sounds fishy….
Are their boys who are single after dating 5 years. Of course. That was discussed as well in the article I posted.
With regards to your comment about the NASI org, it is incorrect.