I don’t get it,
there are a number of assumed facts floating around here that are presumed to have a connection
1.there are thousands of older single girls (the official number is 3000 between the ages of 25-40)
So the girls are at a clear disadvantage (even thought no one has any idea how many single guys there are but we will say less than 3000)
2. the guys and girls are in different envoirments(Yeshiva and secular workforce respectively)
so the girls don’t respect the guys(it seems to be assumed that a yeshivish type guy would both respect a girl who has adopted the conventions of secular society and would feel comfortable with her)
3. everyone is entitled to marry someone who is exactly what they are looking for.
I really think that #3 is the root of the shidduch crisis. but more on that later.
Hence we have 3000 girls looking for husbands among less than 3000 guys, many of whom are learning and the girls NO LONGER (many went to school to be able to support a husband who is learning) want a guy who is doing that because of XYZ.
so the assumed crisis has TWO parts. One which could be addressed easier than the other (that’s right: clone THE working ben torah who learns many hours a day and works in investment banking)
Now back to number two.
many of you assumed that because a girl is more polished or has a more defined accomplishment (they don’t give PHDs is yeshiva) or overpaid to have a few letters to put after her name, she will not respect a guy who is learning (seriously).
Is she looking for a co-worker or a husband?
I suspect that the two do not require the same skill set (unless you say that the decline in marriage and high unemployment are related- regardless employment is still way ahead – 92% vs 50%)
So IMHO if we do the old tired thing of focusing on what is important in a marriage we might have more shidduchim