I’m going to take the opposite side.
I have heard from many, including B’shem Rabbi Mordechai Finkelman, that the absolute most critical part of dating for a guy is to make sure that he is attracted to the girl. In fact, it is a Gemorah (begining of the second perek of Keddushin), that the man must see the woman to marry her, to make sure that he is attracted.
That means, that the man SHOULD think on a date if he will appreciate all aspects of being married to this woman (V’Hamavin Yovin). If he will not, then he should drop her immediately.
P.S. Women should really do the same, but since physicality is less significant for women in most cases, it is less critical.
P.P.S. IMHO, part of the “divorce crisis” is the lack of attraction that occurs after the first 6 months, or after the first child. It really does solve most “couple” problems when you have a partner who you want to be with (also not from me, but from respected Rabbonim. I could quote the actual line, but the Mods would toss me for good (and rightfully so)).