frumnotyeshivish: I am not saying that it is in a guy’s best interest to decide without the picture. I was just articulating the ideal rational extreme (which is probably not something human beings should strive for anyhow). My point was that the intangibility of the ideal notwithstanding, it ought to be borne in mind so as to keep your reality as close to it as you can.
I get your arguments. But I am not trying to say that the practice is stam wrong. I just think that the way WIY is using it is.