to yeru613
“. so they assume that because the area code on their house phone 732 they should get into school with kids who’s mother and father are moiser nefesh in 2016 to bring their kids up in the most sheltered way they could imagine (obviously there is no fool proof way but…)”
So, from your post I can see two ways to resolve the problem.
1. Every family outside of Lakewood, which is not up to Lakewood lifestyle standard, should stop giving donation to yeshivos and kollelem in Lakewood. Instead they should give these money for a new school in Lakewood, which will accept every Jewish child, who does not fit to existed schools. This way all Jewish kids will have Jewish education, every Jew will support his own lifestyle and different “circles” of Jews will not mingle.
2. Find a new place for BMG with stipulation, that Jews, who not belong to yeshiva have no rights to settle next to yeshiva. Apartment buildings should be belong to BMG and available for avrechim/rabbeim only. Do not allow to build luxury houses around yeshiva, avrechim can’t afford them. People, who can afford (most of them) – have not BMG lifestyle. Whoever is good enough to provide service for BMG, can travel to work from any other town/city.
It is not an option to send Jewish child to public school.