I have no push other than to do Ratzon HaShem.
My point is and was that while HaShem does want us to get along with one another, nothing trumps Halacha. Statements like “we cant let Halacha decide who to love..” or “all HaShem cares for is Ahavs Yisroel, the rest is nonsense” (ok nobody wrote that) is a slippery slope. As you in fact wrote at the end of your piece – “this is per rabbinical direction”. Halacha decides when and where to apply, to overlook, to be machmir, to be meikel.
If your point was that we can’t let halacha ADHERENCE to decide, then yes, of course you’re right. You just should have been clearer. But know, even in this case, there are sometimes when one does certain things, with certain attitudes, that make one “outside the camp”. Some are black on white, others in the grey…