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If my post pushes even one person to think a bit more deeply about their own emunah, bitachon, and the decisions they make, and pushes them to take even one step towards ensuring a responsible path for themselves or their friends, I will be consider the post as having served an important to’eles.
When you mock what people hold dear, your message, if any, will be unlikely to go through. Your “examples” shed no light, but mocked through caricature and insult; suggesting that those engaged in full time learning were poor parents and stupid.
then they are stuck in a terribly stressful position, and “the system” has failed them
Your post is long in complaints, but short in solutions. If you truly want to convince people to move in a different direction, provide some suggestions or ideas.