milk5–I was about to mention that shevet halevi. Interestingly, he writes that it is only within those poskim who hold its a chumra that woman would not have to do it.
Lemaase, I find it very shver that so many people are not noheg with mayim acharonim.
Ruva deruva rishonim, and most acharonim hold its a chiyuv. Why ignore them when it’s so easy to do?
(And when I say most, I mean, Rambam, Geonim(they had a machlokes whether to make a brocha or not), rif, machzor vitri, ritva, ramban, shu”t min hashomayim, yam shel Shlomo, tur beis Yosef, chida, gra, shulchan aruch harav, chayey odom, Ari, Yalkut Reuveini, kitzur sh”a, Kol hamekubalim(as quoted by the Magen avrohom I believe) chida, mishna berura, Kaf hachaim, aruch hashulchan hold either it’s a chiyuv, or good to do). While tosfos, the rosh, and the darchei Moshe (not in a hagoh) hold it is no noheg. The aruch hashulchan says about tosfos, and mistoma it works for the rosh and Rama as well, that he was being lomed zechus on those who do not do it(look at their exact loshon). I do not understand why people ignore all these poskim, when it is clearly the rov.