I think that attraction is a special bracha that guides us in finding our spouses. If the person who hasn’t felt any attraction even after meeting many “potentials” is an emotionally healthy and mentally balanced human being, then we can assume that “not feeling attracted” is simply a fact of life, and not an extreme judgment given by an egotistical person.
That being said, attraction takes many forms. There is pure physical attraction, which can be classified more as “lust,” and then there is real attraction; the force that causes chein to come shining out of your date’s face, whether or not their features are the most beautiful you’ve ever seen. That sort of attraction is something real, akin to a meeting of the neshamos. A deeper connection, a feeling of belonging with one another…
I do not believe that waiting for such a connection is a foolish, or hopeless. Waiting only for a simple physical attraction is foolish however.
So just ask yourself, are you looking for a painting? Or a soul connection? Dig a little deeper and be honest with what you consider “attraction,” then you can go ahead and recognize the real deal when it presents itself.
Hatzlacha