Golfer. All I meant was that in my experience it is better to go to a Rav who does not know either side in the potential shidduch, as it can save the Rav from being placed in an awkward position. It was merely said out of sensitivity to the Rav and was most certainly not meant in any way to cast aspersions or bring anybody’s integrity into question. Obviously, one is free to see it differently.
Nevertheless, the fact that you launched into a tirade against me, without bothering to find out what I actually meant and to compound matters imputed the most odious connotation possible to what I posted without considering any more favorable alternatives, speaks volumes.
Moreover, the fact that you paint Basar ve Chalav sheilos and Shidduch sheilos with the same brush, also speaks volumes. People are not objects!