Reply To: Invited to the Wedding Feast, not the Ceremony-would you be offended?

Geordie613

I had a telephone conversation with 2 of my 3rd cousins and their 96 year old mother today This is when land line phones with extensions are better than cell phones). The mother is one of the few remaining of my parents’ generation on my father’s side.

The consensus is that the 3rd cousins would not be offended. They would make the effort to travel if invited, but if they only were attending in NYC, they could bring their mother. The female cousin was the most practical: Her wisdom: “If I have to come to CT for the Chuppah and luncheon, then to an evening affair in NYC, I need 2 new outfits, and maybe a 4 O’Clock appointment at the salon, for a comb out and a color change on my nails. The men just need to change to a fresh white shirt.”

On the other hand, My wife and non-Kallah daughters and Daughters-in law are thrilled to shop for different outfits, wigs, accessories for the two events.

The decision is made.

There will be an intimate chuppah and luncheon in our home on a Sunday in early April followed by a feast for 325 that night in NYC.

If anyone is offended by only being invited to the evening celebration, he/she is welcome to send back the reply card marked ‘will not attend’

BTW>>>Before someone comments on it being a long engagement, I stop saying kaddish for my mother Z”L in late March.