wolf
you write “Then don’t invite any non-Jews to your wedding.”
isn’t the point of posting here to voice OUR opinions? it doesn’t make much sense to say “Then don’t invite etc.”
as far as the cost of the wedding, your comment again doesn’t make much sense, this isn’t about what we can or can’t afford. or what we should be spending. the average goy that goes to a heimish wedding and sees the band, the hall, clothing, jewelry, etc… will come out with a certain notion, which isn’t necessary
“it adds simcha to the choson and kalla”
i don’t think the father inviting his friends or co-workers adds anything to the choson and kalla. we’re not talking about the babysitter that’s been with the family for 30 years.
you’re getting old, all your points on this one were way off, not sure if you just wanted to argue and didn’t have any good points, or you didn’t sleep well last night.
on a side note I’m sure you’re a great guy, but you should find a rav and get really close to him. most of your hashkafa is way off.