the professionals don’t really know the parties involved and have a ‘business’ investment in the shidduch even if it is just a smidgen in the back of their hearts. That hardly compares to a friend, neighbor or relative who knows you, sees a possible connection and wants to see you married because s/he cares personally about you.
The shidduch resume is not “you”. It is a souped up brochure made to advertise you like a piece of real estate. If i read thirty resumes and then meet thirty girls i would doubt i could match them up (especially if they all cut and pasted from the same friends). But if you talk to thirty close friends or relatives, you will be able to spot the subject a good portion of the time.
If you want a professional, feel free, but people shouldnt act like it is sacrilegious to not want one. it doesn’t mean we are meeting people in pool halls. it means we are also using shadchanim but we feel more secure about the suggestion and the sincerity of the presentation.
and if you doubt it, go ask a professional shadchan how she presents someone who has alot of so called flaws. She can tell you how she polishes it up a bit, changes small facts as appropriate etc. They will not deny it. its a sales pitch. i’m not buying a car. they tell girls who dont like make up to wear it anyway. they tell them to wear certain styles even if it isn’t comfortable for them. I heard a shadchan once insist a girl dye her (minute amount of)grey hairs. It’s like a horse show. But if YOU do NOT feel that way, then continue on. It is just irritating to hear the odd implications that it’s “unyeshivish” or invalid.