Hi, golfer. I really appreciate your attempt to make peace. That’s very nice of you. I hope that Syag and Joseph appreciate it, too.
Syag, it’s a pity you’ve chosen to ‘drastically cut down on [your] posting’ because of responses you’ve received. I’ve also cut back on my posting because of the snarkiness of the comments that followed (and because I have dial-up, so a lot of the time it’s too painful to bother with posting).
And weighing in on shadchanim: If they suggest doing something that really doesn’t reflect your true self (like the shadchan who told me to wear colored tights), that’s one thing. It’s when they try to bully you into doing something that really doesn’t reflect your true self (like the shadchan who told me to wear shorter skirts), that’s another thing.
I’m married 17 years KA”H and those shadchans still upset me when I think about it.