Sam2: yekke2: No, I don’t. And I’m not gonna give the full rant because it won’t help anything.
Please give the full rant. Personal favour?
The way I understand it, the Minhag comes about as a result of various stringencies accepted in different households over Pesach. I don’t use some ingredients that you do, you don’t use some ingredients that I do. (Some differences are famous – eg. Gebrokts, Kitniyos, Garlic, Chickens; others are more personal. Some people won’t use chocolate in their products on Pesach. Some people won’t use anything they cannot produce themselves. In my mothers family, they wash every peice of meat/fish before beginning any work; thus eliminating any processed meats or minced products. Most people I know don’t do that.) Some people rely on Hechsherim that others don’t (not necessarily because they are more or less Frum, but because the Rabbi I follow advised me against it and his Rabbi didn’t).
As a result of that, I might not want to eat in your house on Pesach, due to suspicions that your cooking doesn’t fit exactly with my Kashrus requirements. (Not standards, requirements.) That could be solved by discussing everything properly, but (i) people get offended that you question them, (ii) if you go to some but not to others, you will end up offending those who you turn down. Therefore, people make a blanket rule not to eat in other people’s houses over Pesach.
Is this so terrible?