Damoshew
It is vague enough to mean whatever you want, which effectivly takes away any “bite” the takanos may have had.
Which of course begs the question as to what the point is/was?
This is where Simcha 613 correctly points out:” the wedding takanos were for the purposes of the people who couldn’t afford as much and felt inferior. It wasn’t to force people to higher level than they were ready for, it was to help those who couldn’t afford much.” Or as I put it: “They werent really Takanos. They were an “out” for those who couldnt keep up with the “Jonses” OR “Shwartzes” to say “We arent making a fancy wedding because of the takanos””