Areivim, agreed 100%. When I was at weddings in my single days, I was trying to focus on the happiness of the chosson instead of my misery at being single. And every time someone came over to me and said that, as well-meaning as it was, it was a break of the emotional shield I had erected. I appreciated the brachos, but would have appreciated them more if they were said silently. I never complained to anyone. I never wrote in a long screed to the Yated. I suffered in silence, intellectually knowing that it was mostly well-intentioned and that my emotions were distorted by my pain. But suffer I did. I am happy that you don’t have this problem. You have reached a place I tried to reach but failed, and I give you a lot of credit for it.
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